When you are going through a breakup, it’s difficult to focus on yourself because all your time is now being spent focused on your ex. The last thing you should be doing is checking up on your ex or looking at his or her social media feed.
You can never move forward if you keep looking to see what your ex is doing. The less time you spend thinking of your ex, the less time your ex will keep popping up in your thoughts. It’s time to refocus your thoughts on yourself. The best thing to do is to channel your thoughts onto something positive.
What is it you’ve always wanted to do but never thought you would have the time? You will need something to do with the extra time you will have on your hands and what better time to pick up a new hobby.
It’s important to be aware of our thoughts and stop ourselves when we start thinking about our ex. Reroute your thoughts into something more rewarding. Make a goal to improve in some way and focus on getting closer to that goal each day.
It’s important to take care of yourself. If your ex has left you, it’s easy to feel as if you don’t deserve to take care of yourself. You no longer have to think about pleasing a partner. Now it’s time to become more selfish and please yourself.
Grow from the Experience
When you start to focus on yourself, the healing can finally take place. Use this experience to help you grow. Have you stopped caring about the way you look? Did you get comfortable in the relationship? Did you do things to negatively impact the relationship?
Take a good look at your past actions. There is always something we can improve upon. Some of the things we have done during our relationship can be very painful to acknowledge.
Don’t accept total responsibility for the relationship ending. It takes two to start one and two to end one. It’s common to have compromised too much and deny your own needs in order to fulfill all of your partner’s needs, instead.
We cannot blame others for disappointing us. It’s time to do some soul-searching to learn who you are and who you want to be from this point going forward.
Build Your Confidence
It’s important to be patient as you start letting go of the past. Start creating the life you want to live. Was there something you wanted to do but felt that it would take too much time from your relationship? Now is the time to do it.
Each new step you take will bring back your self-esteem and confidence. Small, positive affirmations can help to stop negative self-talk and help you to like who you are.
Wake up everyday feeling grateful. Write down everything you are grateful for each day. It’s hard to focus on the negative aspects of life when you are being thankful for what you have.
Volunteering for a worthwhile cause can help redirect negative thoughts. You can do something that you can be proud of and make more meaningful connections with other people. You will gain a different perspective of your own problems and avoid self-pity.
Breaking up is HARD
It’s difficult to break up with someone. There’s no way around it. There is a grieving process when a relationship ends. You have to learn to live your life again. Take the break up as an opportunity to focus on yourself and learn from your experience. For all you know, the best is yet to come!